Simple Minds

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Do you remember the 1980s Scottish rock band Simple Minds? This article has actually nothing to do with them, it is more about the way we use our brains. Yet, did you reach into your memory to answer the question, did you notice what your mind was saying? Perhaps you started humming their hit song Don’t You Forget About Me?

Two Minds

simple mindsOur minds are simple, we all have two – our Chattering Mind and our Listening Mind – and there is no way out! The chattering mind does all the thinking and it never stops. It may become quieter with meditation, we may not listen all the time, and it never stops completely. It is easy to be aware of the mind chatter, yet the listening mind has importance too. When you become aware of the two separate mind functions it can be life-changing.

Right now in my own world, I am patiently awaiting the next life stage and my mind often goes into overdrive…

“I am simplifying my life and it’s so complicated! I know this first-hand; for the past three months I have been out of kilter. I am living in a six-bedroom house which no longer serves my values or life purpose. My energies have been all over the place.”

Yet, when I acknowledge and detach from the thoughts above and the emotions they cause me, life is a whole lot easier.

The chattering mind is responsible for the emotions you have, both positive or negative. When you find yourself saying things such as ‘I am angry’, ‘I am nervous’, ‘I am stressed’, ‘I am tired’, ‘I am hurt’, ‘I am poor’, or ‘I am isolated’, you begin to associate your life with those emotions and you begin to live as if it is so. What you focus on, you attract.

When you choose to simplify and take a step back, to separate your two minds, you give yourself the opportunity to detach from the emotion. You can take away the ‘I am’ and replace it with ‘I feel’. The emotion will always be there, yet your behaviour towards that emotion is the key. In other words, you are not allowing your chattering mind to control your behaviour.

For example: ‘I am angry’ changes to ‘I feel angry’ – it may seem as if this is nit-picking, yet just this subtle change means that the emotion no longer owns you. The language you use, whether written or spoken, defines who you truly are. Anger, for example, is not your identity, you can accept it and move on from it, you do not need to own it. It is your choice.

This is a fabulous skill set to have. By taking away the emotions from your identity, whether negative or positive, you can accept them for what they are, just chemical signals, and then you have the choice to let go and act despite them.

Simple Minds are Strong Minds

So let me finish by writing that line again…

“I feel that simplifying life can feel complicated. I know this first-hand; for the past three months I have felt out of kilter. I am living in a six-bedroom house which no longer serves my values. I feel my energies have been all over the place.”

I can now choose to acknowledge these feelings and the way I wish to move forward. Simple Minds are strong minds. Watch this space.


simple mindsKay Newton is an award-winning International Speaker, enthusiastic author and Midlife Personal Development Coach, whose hundreds of clients love her straight talking and no-nonsense practical holistic help in making the third stage of life awesome.


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3 Responses

  1. Francesca

    Thanks so much for this Kay – really love the simplicity but power of this concept.

  2. Hilary

    Great blog Kay. A reminder to us all that our emotions do not define us, they just highlight things we need to focus on addressing. Wishing you a peaceful transition to wherever your next step may be xx

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